This topic is one that comes up with nearly every one of my clients. How do you go about letting your guests know what you want for your wedding gift? Many couples nowadays have been living together for some time before they get married. This means that when it comes to gifts they know what they want, what they need, and what they don’t. And it is often the case that they really don’t need anything at all… and so a cash gift is preferred to help pay for the wedding or perhaps a nice honeymoon.
There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want… but there are a couple guidelines you should follow in ensuring that you get what you want without breaking some serious rules of etiquette. Here are two big tips to keep in mind:
1. Never inform your guests of your gift preferences yourself.
This is a big one… and it means “in any way, shape, or form”. When you register at some store they will offer you an invitation insert that will tell guests where you’re registered – don’t use these. If you do, you are telling your guests what you want. Don’t post an invitation to your wedding or shower on facebook indicating registered stores or any kind of gift preference (facebook is another matter altogether… but that’s a topic for a different post).
The proper way to let your guests know what you want is to tell your parents and your wedding party. They are the ones your guests will be most likely to ask and they can spread the word for you.
2. Prefer cash? Don’t register.
These days it’s really not uncommon for couples to prefer cash gifts over household odds and ends. So if you fit this category you’re certainly not alone. The best way to let your guests know about your preference for cash is to simply not register with any stores. This sends a clear message in a tasteful way.
However, remember that some people refuse to give cash as a gift and will bring a wrapped present (like it or not). So make sure to have a small gift table set up at the reception for those inevitable packages.
Many couples make mistakes when it comes to gifts… if you follow the guidelines above you’ll be fine.
Happy Planning!
Sophie
There’s nothing wrong with knowing what you want… but there are a couple guidelines you should follow in ensuring that you get what you want without breaking some serious rules of etiquette. Here are two big tips to keep in mind:
1. Never inform your guests of your gift preferences yourself.
This is a big one… and it means “in any way, shape, or form”. When you register at some store they will offer you an invitation insert that will tell guests where you’re registered – don’t use these. If you do, you are telling your guests what you want. Don’t post an invitation to your wedding or shower on facebook indicating registered stores or any kind of gift preference (facebook is another matter altogether… but that’s a topic for a different post).
The proper way to let your guests know what you want is to tell your parents and your wedding party. They are the ones your guests will be most likely to ask and they can spread the word for you.
2. Prefer cash? Don’t register.
These days it’s really not uncommon for couples to prefer cash gifts over household odds and ends. So if you fit this category you’re certainly not alone. The best way to let your guests know about your preference for cash is to simply not register with any stores. This sends a clear message in a tasteful way.
However, remember that some people refuse to give cash as a gift and will bring a wrapped present (like it or not). So make sure to have a small gift table set up at the reception for those inevitable packages.
Many couples make mistakes when it comes to gifts… if you follow the guidelines above you’ll be fine.
Happy Planning!
Sophie
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